Describe Describe Describe

I was thinking about this.  The other day, someone told me they “liked” a story I had written.  That was nice to hear.  And someone said the chicken was “good.”  I have heard others say (not about me or my talents in this area), that the person’s living room looked “nice.”  All good.

But how much better if we describe what we see/ hear/ experience!   Describing gives constructive feedback, and allows the person to form their OWN judgment, and begin to learn to rely less on the judgments of others.

For example:

Your story drew me in right away- I immediately began to wonder about the characters, what would happen to them, why they acted the way they did.  Your description of the marketplace scene was so vivid I could easily imagine myself right there.  I can picture the people in your story in my mind perfectly.

That chicken last night had just the right blend of something hot and spicy (curry, maybe?).  It was well done, tender, and fell off the bone.

The way your living room is decorated makes me feel perfectly at home and comfortable.  That single picture over the couch draws the eye as soon as you enter the room.  And the colors are warm and soothing.

In these examples, the person can think about what is being said, then decide, “Yes, I am a ‘good’ story writer/ cook/ interior decorator.”   It is a much more effective way of sharing than saying, “That was good.  I liked it.”

The other corollary to this is that it requires you to PAY attention to detail.  So often we rush through things, the world passes us by without our noticing much.  We eat, enjoying the food, but not really savoring the tastes and nuances.  We like being in a room, but never thought about why.  The story interests us, but we never think about what we like about it.

It is good and rewarding to enjoy the creation we are surrounded with, to not just let it slide by.

Success stories- Peter and Anne

A couple success stories.  You don’t have to “follow the crowd/ fit the mold”.

Two of my kids.  They’re not yet “done” (are any of us?), but well on their way!

We have Peter, 20.  Let’s see, in the last month he has gone away for a week to a 4H program where he and 30 other young adults (16-20) learned and rehearsed a show.  Came home for a week, tehn went back to the State fair for 14 days to perform this show 3-4 times daily.  He didn’t get paid for this, but all his expenses for both trips (food, lodging, a “night out on the town” ) were all paid for — I think, maybe they had to chip in something like $100.  And spent some awesome time with terrific young people- winners!

He came home from fair, slept about 2 days.  Then stopped in at McDonald’s where he used to work.  First thing they said was, “Do you want your job back?”  He liked working there, but when he said he wanted a higher wage (like $11/hour) they said they couldn’t do it.  The managers and owners wanted to, but “corporate policy” wouldn’t allow it.  So Peter said, “It’s been fun, but so long.”  He called another old boss and will be working construction for a month, then he will head off to a monastery for discernment about becoming a brother.

All his jobs (except the “traditional” one at McDonald’s have allowed him to work as he desires.  So he’s had time to  do things like take a week plus and “work” as manager of the 4H food stand at the fair (more for fun than income).

Peter has had lots of people tell him he needs a “real” job, he needs to go to college, etc.  (Mom and Dad do NOT say this- we see Peter as quite successful.)  Peter looks at them and thinks: I have no debt, I have about $4000 in savings, I have about 5 people who’d hire me in a second if I asked them to, I can do what I want when I want (like go to the monastery), I’m happy.  WHY do I need “college” and a “real” job?

We have Anne, 18.  She’s in her 2nd year of college.  She just posted on facebook that’s he got a raise at her “favorite” job (she has 3 jobs, by choice.)   She gets $10/hour to work at Community Education at a rock climbing gym (she belays), and to take people out canoeing, kayaking and sometimes geocaching.  When things are slow, she sits in the sunshine and reads her book.    All of her jobs are also ones where she can work pretty much when she wants.  So this summer she went to New York with her choir and sang at Lincoln Center (mostly paid for by school), took another trip with a friend to Tennessee.  She’s also in demand as an employee.  And has no debt (nor is acquiring school debt- college is free as she is still considered a high school senior and the state pays for it all), and more than a few thousand in savings.   She knows who she is, what she believes, and how to stand up for herself.   Yeah, right, she needs a “real” job, like Peter!

Some folks go the “traditional route” and that’s fine.  But you can be happy and a success without doing that, if you want.  Just as important as any academic skills are good character traits like dependability, integrity, MANNERS (amazing how many people lack plain simple manners), and more.

How and why did my kids end up like this?  I certainly am not taking credit, but do think my husband and I may have had some influence.  John has worked his own business for over 35 years.  While I wouldn’t call us wealthy, he has been able to support a wife and 7 children over those decades.  We get what we want and need, including what a lot might consider “extras” (like a trip to Hawaii, family cruise vacation, and more).  I’ve never had to work outside the home.  We’re debt free, including out home and 5 acres.

John works hard, but also has freedom to do as he likes.  If he and I take two weeks to go to Hawaii, we can.  He has no boss besides himself.  He’s home 95% of the time.  So the kids see dad providing well for his family, yet not being tied into an “employer” and someone else telling him what he has to do and when.   We’ve always encouraged the kids to work hard, but do what THEY want to do.

We’ve home schooled all of them from K-12 and been careful who/ what they were exposed to.  We’ve never told them they had to get “real” jobs, we’ve encouraged all kinds of alternatives (though there is nothing wrong with a  “real” job if you want it).

My point is not to brag, as I said, I’m not taking credit.  My point is to illustrate that kids/ young adults can do well outside the “system” and thrive.  Give them a  chance, encourage that if you can.

When is “unhealthy eating” okay?

Most of us would agree that some amount of “unhealthy food” is okay. In moderation. How you define that really depends on your knowledge, your health and more. What, and how much is not the focus of this thread. More the “when”.
When is it okay to have “junk food/ unhealthy things”?
MY answer to the question is that it is okay WHEN IT IS PLANNED.
I will have a small piece of cake at the birthday party.
I will have a reasonable sized dessert on Sundays.
We will stop at a fast food place once a week on our way home from soccer practice.
Each day I will allow myself _____ (one can of pop, one small piece of candy, one small bowl of Doritos, whatever).
I will only eat desserts when we go out to eat at sit-down restaurants.

The key to me is to decide for yourself what is reasonable, PLAN it, then stick to your plan (or, if you don’t feel like it, omit something- skip the can of pop.)
But so often, our unhealthy eating is the result of unplanned impulses (= temptation).
One small bag (mini-bag) of M & Ms is no big deal.
One small cookie won’t make any difference.
Everyone is tired and hungry and I have no supper ready at home, let’s stop at McD’s.
I’ll count the chips as my “grain/bread” serving.

When “bad” eating is planned, it ceases to become “bad” eating, I think. I can enjoy the birthday cake without guilt. (Now if I gave in to temptation and ate a huge amount of cake batter as i made it and licked a ton of the frosting, say equivalent to 3 large pieces of cake, then I will NOT be able to enjoy the ONE piece of “planned” birthday cake.)

What’s your answer?

More on Attitude

School starts next week for my 9 yo daughter (she has Down Syndrome).  She’s the first of mine to attend public school (started in pre-K).  All the rest were homeschooled from K-12.  Rosemary’s in public school for lots of reasons.  It is a good place for her, and good for them (staff and schoolmates) to have her there.

But it’s really rather funny.   Some of her teachers, and some of the other parents are younger than my oldest (32 in 3 days).  This bothers me not at all.  I was thinking about it, though.  A person COULD be concerned about what others think, they COULD be embarrassed (even ashamed?).

Sometimes I’ll be out somewhere with Rosemary and my married daughter and her two (ages 11 and 12).  Many folks assume Rosemary is my daughter’s child, not mine.  No big deal.  But again, in that situation one COULD be offended or feel bad.

My attitude is kind of like: think what you will, bothers me not.  The only one I am truly concerned with pleasing is God.  I also care about what my husband and family think, but that is a fr second to God’s “approval”.   (And rarely does it cause problems in the family, even if they disagree with me.  And even more rarely do my husband and I disagree on things.)

One could go through life trying to please others, seeking the approval and confirmation from others.  What a waste.  And so much energy.  And you’re not following your own path, then, but one laid out for you by someone else.  And many people DO live this way!  How very sad!

One can serve others in their life, this is a great part of what life is all about.  I might choose to go to the restaurant my husband likes instead of the one I want to go to, just because I love him.   I might do his laundry, cook for him, mend his clothes and so on, to serve him, and out of love.  This is good and kind and noble.

But if I change my Thanksgiving Day plans and go to my mother-in-law’s house (just to please her) instead of staying home with my family as I had planned and WANT to do, and I volunteer at ____ because someone wants me to, and I ______ because then so and so will like me, perhaps it’s time to reconsider.

Serving others out of choice is good.  Serving others out of a desire/need for approval isn’t.  be who you are.  Love who you are.  Go ahead and strive to be better, that’s good.  But do it because YOU want to do it.

Overpopulation fact

I don’t know where you all (you all meaning any readers) stand on the theory of overpopulation, but here’s a quick fact I’d like to share.  When I first heard it, I didn’t believe it   I did the research and calculations myself (easily done, obviously true factual information available, information not in question by anyone).

If you took ALL the people in the whole WORLD, and grouped them into “families” of 4 people each and gave each family a house on a 6000 square foot lot (typical city size lot), how much space would it take to house everyone?   (This assumes no square footage for streets or parks, just lots with homes.)

EVERYONE, every person in the world, would fit into a space the size of Texas and Oklahoma combined.  That’s IT!  (Don’t believe it?  Do the math… 6 million people, google square mileage of TX and OK, convert to square feet, divide… that’s it.)

Personally I think a major problem lies in allocation of resources, and helping people to help themselves.  Governments are often not very effective vehicles to “help the poor”.  I speak not only from what I have learned, but from personal experience.

We spent 2 1/2 years in Venezuela running a children’s home.  Shortly after we got there the government came in to build us 2 large bathrooms, a boys and girls, with multiple showers, urinals, toilets and so forth.  John, my husband, being in the water business, had brought along a water meter and one of the first things he did was measure how much water we got daily.  I asked the engineers how much water 8 showers, 4 toilets and a multiple use urinal would take.  They said about 8000 liters daily.  I said, “STOP!”  The most we have every gotten in one day in the last 2 months has been 2000 liters (and often less than half that).  This is NOT going to work!   Oh, no problem, we will build you a water tower and truck you water each week.  Yeah, sure.

They built it all.  We locked 3/4 of it off, turned the urinal into a laundry sink AND built a couple of very deep outhouse holes a good distance away from the home (like 30′ out, the old ones had been right next to the home).  My point is the government thought they were doing something good and wonderful for the poor kids.  Poor planning.

Anyway, sometimes we need to look beyond the “facts” as they may be presented.


Knocking Yourself

Lately I have had some pretty lofty goals for myself (mostly health related).  I have  been doing well with them, but not 100%.

I had a friend down this weekend.  She had a hard life the last few years (divorce after 29 years of marriage, annulment, and more).  I commented to her that she is still beating herself up over mistakes made and that serves no constructive purpose.

We talked about a young man we know who is turning his life around and getting things in order (he is 22).  One of the people he lives with continually slams him for mistakes.  he still makes mistakes, but has come so far and is doing so many good good things. (Like he shared with me a written list of goals he has.  GOOD goals.  And ones he’s met, such as paying back $3500 of a $4000 debt in one year.)  I lamented with my friend how sad it is that the roommate can;t see all the good, just focuses on the bad.

Ummm… duh!  That is exactly what **I** have been ding with me the last few weeks.  So I set these great goals.  And most days I meet them 50-90%, probably averaging around 75-80%. That is GOOD!  That is much better than before I had set the goals.  yet my thinking each night has been, “Oh, I blew it today.  I didn’t  ___ or ____.”  Maybe that’s true but I DID ___, ____, ___, ____, AND  ____!

Time for me to turn my OWN thinking around and focus on the good done each day!  And stop knocking myslef.

Where are you at?



What you say, your attitude (Story/ Sean)

Here’s a story I wrote some time ago. It keeps popping up in my head. I think there are good lessons to be learned. So I’ll share it and some comments.

He was pushing Sean in the baby swing, while Patrick was climbing on a dome type structure a little ways off. Suddenly Patrick yelled for help. Steve gave Sean a good push and walked over. “Help, I stuck.” Steve looked carefully, he was not stuck, per se. He was at a point about 3’ off the ground, clutching the struts tightly, afraid to move. Steve was real big on letting the kids figure things out themselves, encouraging independence. He asked “What can you do to get yourself unstuck?”

“I dunno. Help! I fall!” Steve looked pointedly at him, then at the ground. He said, “And what happens if you fall?” Patrick said, “Owie!” Steve asked, “Big owie?” Patrick shook his head no. Steve continued, “So, if you fall, you fall. No big deal.”

“Is there maybe something you can do with your hands or feet to get yourself unstuck?”

Patrick looked at where his hands and feet were, and then slowly, carefully, moved his feet and inched his way down. All Steve said was, “You saw what you needed to do to get down, then you did that. You moved your feet and hands so you could climb down. You figured it out.”

Steve always tried to describe what he saw, instead of outright tell them something was good or bad. If they could learn to see things, they could provide their own judgment and learn not to rely on others for what they thought. By describing what had happened, Steve was letting Patrick form his own unconscious judgment. Hey, I DID figure it out, and I DID get down. I can do things. I am capable.

Steve thought this was much better than him saying something like, “Good job.” He also let his boys know that there was nothing wrong in failing, in falling. That was okay. It meant you were trying. As long as you got back up, didn’t let the failure defeat you, it made no difference. It was just a learning experience. In his opinion, way too many people were afraid of doing things for fear of failure. He didn’t want his sons to be afraid of failing.

Steve went back to pushing Sean. Patrick played a while round the base of the dome. Steve watched out of the corner of his eye. He climbed back up a little ways, maybe 2 ½’. And fell. Steve said nothing, pretended he didn’t see it. Patrick looked his way, rubbed his knee, sat a few seconds on the ground, looking at the dome. Then headed back onto it, climbing- cautiously- about 3 ½’ this time, up and down successfully. When he finally got back down, you could almost feel the satisfaction he had, the confidence in having accomplished something hard. Steve smiled.

A woman walked over to him who had been sitting and playing with her young (maybe 1 year old) daughter in the sand box. “Hi, I’m Melanie. That was really interesting.”

He extended his hand, “I’m Steve. What was interesting?”

“The way you handled that with your son. Most parents would first of all have said, ‘BE CAREFUL! DON’T FALL!’ And then they would have plucked him off when he asked for help instead of letting him figure it out. Are you a child psychiatrist or something?”

Steve laughed heartily, “No! I just think it’s better to let them work things out on their own, as long as they’re not in any serious danger.”

I think the way this was handled is good for us to do as parents, as friends, and even with ourselves. (It really does become second nature when you do it enough.) Also note that Steve didn’t solve the problem for the boy, nor tell him what to do. When he was stuck, he merely offered a little guidance.

(I posted this originally for my writing group/ course, so the following example pertains to that, but could apply anywhere in life.) So why has this been on my mind all day? I think it might be helpful for us to consider how this might work with the little voices (liars) we have in our heads and our writing.

Example: a person thinks they aren’t a writer (or a good writer). If they stop a minute and think about – and describe- certain scenes, they might come up with something like this: the other day when I was telling my friends that story about ____ they were really interested. They paid attention and listened. What I had to say was worthy of their time and attention. And they laughed at the funny parts.

So your own judgment could be something like: I can tell stories well, hold people’s attention. What I have to say is valuable. I speak coherently in front of small groups of friends. (Try to use words more specific that “good”.)

Relating this to writing, you might ask yourself how you can transform those positive traits into print.

So, the process is describe, then form your own judgment.

Note: if need be, a description may not necessarily be positive. Sometimes we need to face things we aren’t good at and deal with that. I prefer to focus on the good, the positive as much as possible.

I was thinking more about this last night. What the common response might have been: “Be careful, you’ll fall.” That reply really is rather negative when you think about it.

First off, simply saying. “Be careful,” implies you’re not being. Chances are good most of the time we ARE careful about our actions (certainly we are likely to be careful if climbing on a jungle gym, I’d think). So you are in a one sense belittling the person (or YOURSELF) that they don’t know enough to be careful.

Second, “You’ll fall!” Well, one of two things here (or both). You’re projecting your fear of his falling onto them, planting that idea into their heads. And you’re again assuming they are not capable of doing the task. Negative thinking all around. It even presents the (erroneous, I think) idea that falling is bad. So they fall, big deal. Most of the time, for most of us, our falls are small ones. Small falls, before we get in too deep can serve to teach us things, and not be permanently damaging. The kid who falls a few times off a 3’ jungle gym will figure out how to do it so he doesn’t fall. And then go to 6’ and higher. Or if he is truly not the athletic type, and can’t get it, possibly abandon jungle gym climbing and move to swings. Or wait until he is older, more coordinated. Or have someone show him how (or watch the other kids).

I used a story to illustrate this, but really, how often do we do this? It’s the little liar (voice) at work. This may show a way to treat our kids and others, but also ourselves. Maybe as a challenge today try to pay close attention to what you say to yourself. Are there any phrases like:

I can’t do this/that.
____ won’t like it.
That won’t work, no way to do it.
It won’t be right.
He/she can do it better than me.
I’ll “fall”. (This can be said in MANY ways.)

(Think about what you say to yourself as well as what you say to others.)

1/10 th mile

One tenth of a mile. Not far. I try to walk 3 miles a day. Sometimes I do it all at once, sometimes I spread it out. (I think walking is good for fitness, I’m not much into the, “You must do it all at once to get aerobic benefits and you must ___ and ____.” My goal is to get my 3 miles in, 5-6 days/ week.

I don’t walk real fast, but I can do 1/10 mile in under 2 minutes. It’s pretty dog gone easy to do 1/10 mile. Repeat 30 times in a day and I’ve done 3 miles.

I like watching the Olympics. I need to share about our “TV situation”. We don’t watch TV. We do HAVE a TV for occasional movies we get (usually borrow from the library). We live rural. When the antenna is hooked up, we get one channel (which happens to be NBC, the Olympics channel). So when the Olympics are on, someone goes and climbs on the roof, attaches the antenna wires to the chimney and feeds it in through the window. Then it gets attached to the TV. Hey, it works. (And we have no cable bills, nor temptation to watch “garbage”.)

Problem: the antenna cord isn’t very long, the TV is in my bedroom (by the window). My treadmill is on the other side of the room, around the corner. Watching the Olympics while treadmill walking would be good. I could move my treadmill but that’s too much hassle, plus there is not really room over by the window. So here’s what I do. I treadmill walk with the Olympics on. When the good stuff comes on (there is so much commentary that simply listening to suffices) I go and watch.

However, then during the breaks and commercials I go ad walk. I can usually do at least 1/10 mile during commercial breaks. And they have lots of those. Before you know it, my 3 miles is done. (I do NOT spend all day watching the Olympics, usually some in the afternoon or only evenings).

My point is that you can get a significant amount of exercise in in a day by doing little spurts of things now and then. 1/0 mile here and there. If you’re going upstairs for something, do a double or triple trip, going up and down 2-3 times instead of just one. Takes but a minute. But ALL those minutes add up. Go for it!

Judging- One of my Favorite Topics!

ALL the time we hear, “Don’t judge”.  Supposedly it’s even in the Bible.


I judge all the time.  So do you.  It is good and necessary.

I judge that it is prudent to wear a jacket today because it’s cold.  I judge that this movie is better than that movie.  I judge that a vegan diet is better than a high protein one.  I judge that this restaurant is excellent and that one is unfit to eat at (like an unnamed fast food restaurant- my daughter just started working there and shared a few things…).  I judge that this laptop is a better buy than that one.  I judge that I won’t buy from ____ because they support _____.     (Or I WILL buy from ___ because they support ____.)   I judge that I will have enough time today to do all my work AND still have time to go out to supper.   All day long we form judgments.

I used to think it was okay to judge “things” but not people.  Again hogwash!  We judge people all the time, also.  Again, this is not bad.   I judge this person to be (or not be) a suitable babysitter for my children.  I judge this political candidate more worthy of my vote than that one.  I judge this speaker worth listening to over that one.  I judge this author worth reading as compared to that author. (I suppose in a way that is judging their writing, not them.  But I might pick up a certain author’s book based on what I know about them, based on a judgment I have made of them.)  If I am an employer, I will judge this job applicant more suited for the job than that one.

Dictionary definition : judgment (  the ability to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely, especially in matters affecting action; good sense; discretion

Now, if we are smart, we will make wise judgments, and gather as much information as possible to make good and sensible judgments, especially in more critical decisions (such as what diet is best, and who we will vote for as President, where we will live, what career path we shall take).

And we will base judgments on what we see and hear.  I (and you) will form very different judgments of a man dressed in an Armani suit with impeccable grooming as compared to one with stringy dreadlocks and a tattered T-shirt.  This doesn’t mean one person is BETTER than another.  But what people (we) say, how we act and dress DOES affect how people judge us.

Can we be wrong in our judgments?    Certainly.    Happens all the time (to varying degrees).  So if we find we are wrong, we adjust as we are able.  If I hire a babysitter I had judged to be good and find out she’s incompetent, I’ll hire someone else.  If I vote for a candidate who wins and turns out to be a “bad” president, I’m stuck with it (except for political activism to remedy that which I see/ judge to be wrong).  There’s no sin in being wrong.    Rash judgment is foolish and imprudent.  Sometimes we have little information with which we can make a judgment.   (Say you’re out with friends and on the spur of the moment go to the local theater with seven movies showing, none of which you really know anything about.  You can ask your friends, or the theater staff, you can look at the posters, but you really have limited information and time to make a good judgment of which movie to see.)    If that’s the case, do the best you can.  As I said, find out what you can, then make your judgment.

Back to the Bible.  When the Bible refers to not judging, what it means is not condemning.  To condemn is wrong.  To judge is good.   I cannot condemn another for their actions.  I can judge certain actions to be right or wrong.  If I think abortion is wrong (and I do), and I see a 13 yo girl get an abortion, I cannot condemn her.  She may have been forced into it by well-meaning parents or adults.  (Really the same for a 25 yo.   But I judge that a 13 yo pregnant may be less able to make good decisions, like not aborting, than a 25 yo.   But that judgment may be wrong sometimes, maybe the 25 yo is unable to make good choices.)  So judge, but don’t condemn.

One of the fruits of the Holy Spirit is “right judgment”.  This means the gift of being able to form good, accurate judgments.  So don’t tell me the Bible says not to judge.  (As I said, condemnation is different.)

There IS right and wrong.  You can say that is my opinion, so be it.  But there is right and wrong.  Everyone thinks so.  We may differ in WHAT we consider right and wrong, but it is there.   No one would condone child abuse, everyone would say that is wrong (except maybe a very very few).

And yes, I WILL tell you what I think is right and wrong, and try to convince you I am correct.  How fervently I do that depends on many things.  If it’s the movie, I really don’t care much so long as it’s not R-rated.  If you’re my 18 yo daughter, unwed and pregnant thinking about abortion, I will go to great lengths to convince you that is a wrong choice.   If you’re my husband and watching internet porn, I’d work real hard to get you to see the errors of your ways.   I won’t force my views on anyone, but I will share them, and share why I think they are right and why you could adopt them as your own.   Sometimes I think people get confused about sharing what’s right and wrong and “forcing” their views on someone.

If I were to tell my 18 yo pregnant daughter with no job or financial resources that if she has an abortion, she can’t live here anymore, even that is not forcing my beliefs on her.  She is free to make her own choice, is she chooses abortion, she also chooses not to live at home anymore.   I’m not “kicking her out”.   (By the way, I’d never do that.  I’d never give a person in that situation that kind of ultimatum.  Like I said, I’d try mightily to convince her abortion is wrong, but if she chose it anyway, I’d still love her and try to help in any way I could.)

Again, I could be wrong in my judgments.  But I’m going to live my life based on what I think is right, knowing I’m not perfect and may err sometimes.  I try to be open to new ideas, and I am more than willing to revise my judgments.  Sometimes I learn something new, or have certain experiences that lead me to rethink something.  That is good, wise.

A key when talking with people is knowing what terms mean, knowing what the other person means by certain words.   THINK about what you say.  So when you say (or hear), “Don’t judge,” does the speaker really mean, “Don’t condemn?”  I think usually that is the case.

So, go about your day today, and your week this week thinking about judgment.  Call people on it, if they say, “Don’t judge.”  Ask them if they really mean, “Don’t condemn?”   Teach them that judgment is good.

The Olympics and Committment

More on commitment.    I’ve been watching the Olympics.  The athletes that make it there are committed.  100%.  You won’t get there without 100%.  You might get somewhere, but not to the top.

I’m thinking about my commitment to superb eating (not just “following a diet”) but eating 98% of what is good for me.  I committed to that goal, but not 100%.   I am more committed than I have been.

Yet I allow things to get in the way.  I’ve been doing baking with my grand daughter (to take things to county fair and enter them).  So we’ve had cookies and bars around.  Not things good for me to eat.  Still, if I was 100% committed, I know I could avoid them.

I think part of the key (only part) is to plan ahead.  So I’ll be going TO the county fair this week.  Fair food.  Not good for me to eat.  So I go when I’m not hungry,  I bring a snack with me (like nuts or an apple), I make sure to drink plenty of water.

I think often we fail to plan.  And often that is the same as planning to fail.  We’re not going to get to where we want to be without a plan.  If we have 100% commitment we are highly likely to achieve our goal.  Be good for me today to spend some time reflecting on why I am not (yet) 100% committed…