Yes, But

I think this phrase could be banned from the English language.

“I lost 20 pounds.” “Yes, but you have another 30 to lose.”

“I got my assignment done and turned in on time.”“Yes, but you only got a C on the paper.”

“I got a job!”“Yes, but it’s not full time and only pays $x”

People also do this to themselves:

“Yes, I lost 20 pounds, but still have 30 to go.”

“Yes, I got the assignment done on time, but I only got a C on it.”

“Yes, I got a job, but it’s only part time and doesn’t pay well.”

While the phrases after the “but” may indeed be true, they negate or cancel out the positive first part.  Can’t we/you/I just skip the “but” part?  Do we need to mention that?  Maybe it does need to be covered, to do it at another time might be better?

For example, later on , maybe the next time an assignment is due, discuss with the student what they might be able to do to earn a grade better than a C.  Think about what has worked to shed 20 pounds and how you will continue to lose the remainder you need to lose.  And so on.

Think about this the next few days.  How often do you say, “Yes, but…”

Does it serve you/others well?


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